I think I always had that secret rebellious side of me that said I did not agree with women having their last names changed once they get married. I remember now. I had always asked why girls leave their father’s last name when they marry the man they love and take their last name instead.
I mean, your father is the very first man you love in the first place.
Then there was I infront of the young woman applying for my first ever Dutch passport.
And so I asked: “Can I change my last name to my husband’s last name?”
She looked at me and said “I am sorry. Your name will stay as your maiden name. We will, however, indicate that you are the wife of Mr Dutchman.”
I heard the same thing from my mother-in-law. She showed to me her identification card with still her maiden name but with an indication that she is married to Mr Dutchman Senior.
I just asked nonetheless. After all, it was the social norm to do so.
Now both my Philippines Passport and my Netherlands Passport contain my father’s name, mother’s name and my husband’s name.
The perks of being married to a European!